1. Have Tea Time:
In today’s terminology, we often associate tea with gloating gossip or even in some Instagram instances, a way to lose weight. Yes… You’ve seen Kermit sipping. And yes, girl… You’ve seen all the celebrities posting their pictures of their bodies after tea! However, ancient rhetoric and holistic medicine stake claim on different tea drinking results of positivity. There’s literally a tea for dealing with stress, constipation, body aches, sinuses and more.
As little girl’s we grow up practicing tea party etiquette with hosts of friends, some even imaginary. The older we get, we forget the true essence of this time is where we listen to ourselves, heal our bodies holistically and spend that much-needed girl time together! I encourage you to delve into that same daintily, girly imaginary land with that empty tea cup that you still seemed to get so full from and have yourself some “tea time.” You deserve to be full again.
2. Buy Yourself Some Flowers:
I was never the girl who had my love story figured out. I’ve always been somewhat independent in that respect. I have an amazing fiancé that will jump over the moon for me, yet I still feel the need to do something sweet for myself like buy flowers. While some may snarl at the thought of this, I actually enjoy going to the flower section in Kroger and buying myself some flowers. There is something ephemeral about it that drives Alex to do even more. No man likes competition. They always want to win. So show him, lady, and go buy you some flowers. Let him know that you’ve got you covered!
3. Accomplish Something on Your Own:
After college, I was told a million times, it’s all about who you know. Can’t “X person” help you? I even heard some people complain about how no one would help them. I won’t excite you with all the riveting movie plots I’ve encountered after college, but I will tell you that the best parts of the plots are the ones that I wrote, directed and acted alone. Learn to expect the best from yourself, and exude everything in your being to make it happen with or without a penny or a bit of advice.
4. Keep a Secret: I’ll never forget this one time that I went to interview at the White House. I literally told no one, but my family and my two friends that I stayed with during my stay in D.C. I didn’t want this part of the plot to be deterred or figured out by anyone other than me. I prepped long and hard for this moment, and I knew whether it turned into a Grammy moment in my career or not, I didn’t have to make it headline news. It was my accomplishment just to make it there. It was my accomplishment to protect and nurture myself to being even better than before. I kept it a secret from some of my closest friends for up to a year afterward. As a result, that moment, the details are so sacred to me in a way that I know the power of their manifestation.
5. Talk to One if not Both of Your Parents: Coming from a big family of 5 siblings, we hold very few secrets amongst each other. We are the most, blunt bunch you might ever see. The relationship that my parents hold with each of my siblings is an admirable one that we’ve each gained a host of meritorious qualities from. Each time I talk with my parents, I ask questions about who, what, why, when and how. Learning them as adult to adult is a pretty electrifying phenomenon. Hearing my father, a small-town hero, talk about how he’s played artist such as Prince, R. Kelly, Selena Johnson and more has taught me that no dream is off limits. Listening to my mom drop whatever she’s doing and say I’m going to be by your sister or your brother’s side is something that teaches you the power of womanhood. Sometimes, she moves so fast and so calmly, that you may even think she’s Casper. So, I urge you to talk to your parents. It is vital. They’re telling you a story that could depict your future. Spend time with them. Enjoy them. They knew your name before you were born.
I'll admit it, I'm not stranger to a fad diet or a raging health tip. I, literally live, to try the things we are told will prevent this disease and will heal that ailment. I'm definitely a gimmick to gossip magazines entitled, "Khloe Kardashian, How she got her revenge body." I succumb to these temptations of “said health” like a fickle dieter and sweets. Thereof, commenced Jasmine's juice cleanse. My experience documents as follows:
Warning: Do not start a juice cleanse without proper preparation. Before I decided to embark on this journey, I began juicing as a lunch meal replacement for two weeks. I'd go to lunch with the midday crash, and then, I’d come back to work like President Obama. I was truly energized and ready to conquer the world. This spawned my curiosity to try juicing for a 3 day period! Here’s what happened:
I woke up determined and defeated at the same time. Why may you ask? I'm human, and we love the sensation of eating more than we realize! There’s something about not just the taste of food, but the whole process of chewing and swallowing and the fullness you feel from a gratifying meal – (My fiancé likes to refer to this notion as the “Slaw Demon”). I truly struggled and missed actually eating, so I had to find an alternative notion of reflecting upon. I had spurts of frequent cravings of Ghirardelli chocolate and coffee with cream and sugar. In my weakest moments, I forced myself to refocus that energy to the overall outcome I was attempting to attain. This is the key for day 1! Find your motivation to maintain your action. I wanted a complete body-reset, ridding any sweet cravings and toxins from my body. These small things can control you rather you realize it or not; and in several areas of life, this mentality can divert you from positive and productive missions. I wanted a clean slate mentally. I wanted to defeat bad habits and start fresh. I wanted to go cold turkey and win! I wanted to prove that if I can win at this, I can win at many other things that I’m facing in my life too! Once I adopted this mentality, the challenge was on, and I was back to conquering the world.
Strangely enough, many of our eating habits are due to our emotions and our schedules and if that’s out of whack, we are out of whack. Day 1’s stamina lead me to master the feats of emotions and schedules. Beginning the day, I was energized and experiencing fewer cravings. My focus was stronger. I wrote down my task for the day and checked them all off with little distraction or procrastination. Day 2, I’d made it halfway through the marathon and I refused to turn back. If you make it halfway, through a juice cleanse, you’ve already kicked bad habits and pushed your limits. You’ve won again!
To be expected, I was depleted. I woke up saying, “I can’t wait until tomorrow when I can have chicken and waffles for breakfast.” However, in any race, you’re pretty tired by the time you reach the end. I went through the whole day with no cravings. Truthfully, I didn’t even want any more juice. I simply just wanted to finish what I’d started. Day 3 consisted of a lot of trips to the bathroom because I was physically discarding everything! According to my magazine mantras, this was to be expected. What they don’t tell you in the magazines is that famous people actually do very minimal activity when do these infamous cleanses. Many are also under the direction of their doctors, nutritionist, dietitians and more. I, contrarily, completed my juice cleanse and my key to succeeding was taking it easy on myself. Desiring to renew, rejuvenate and refresh at a 3-day pace requires some pep in your step, but also some come to Jesus with yourself that it’s okay to sit down for rest and recuperation in order to try again the next day. I also learned that every day is different, and to use it for what it is! Notice, I said “use it” not “take it” for what it is. Don’t let the day own you. You own the day! If you have more questions about my juice cleanse, let me know! I would love to share more of my experience!
P.S. I never even ate the chicken and waffles. Day 4, I had no cravings for junk food! Anyhow, no one wants to mess up a good thing after they've put in the work for it. In the days following, I've been more energetic, experienced clearer skin, more spiritually focused, and my entire human aura shifted to a more positive and productive state! I even decided to embark on my Bikram Yoga Journey again.
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