Believe in You:
As did the rest of the world, I had some trying moments in 2015. However, I learned how to do what I call "happy cope". And no, this isn't a blog post about everything that went wrong for me in 2015. None of it is neither here nor there and that's because I happy coped my way on through it by believing in myself. Prime example: I've never been good at math and statistics so the thought of getting my MBA sounded and felt intimidating yet, intriguing. At the beginning of 2015, I was halfway done and ready to quit, but I found this massive inner strength and graduated with a 3.7 GPA! I traveled to a new city last year, Paris France! I tried new food! I got engaged! I let go of some people I loved and still do. I overcame some major issues all because I learned the power of believing in myself.
The moment I learned that believing in myself was the greatest thing I could do: I was flying to New York for an important interview and everything went wrong. My flight was delayed. My car service from the New York Laguardia Airport to the interview was late. I had left my entire portfolio and resumes in the terminal in Memphis. I was ready to call up my sister and say I'm not going, let's go have a girls day in Times Square, but my mind said you can do this no matter the outcome! As soon as my car arrived, I slide into the backseat and just as I took my deep sigh of relief, my skirt split straight up the back. I, immediately, started to think I'm over this day. I just want to go home. The whole way to my interview site, a plethora of thoughts ran through my head: maybe I can find a thrift store, they won't take me serious when they can see my underwear, where is my mother and her sewing machine, what else do I have in my suitcase? The list goes on. Upon arrival, I ran to the restroom, found safety pins that were still in my suit from fresh dry cleaning and went to work fixing my skirt. I came out a new woman, ready to kill this interview! I had a phenomenal interview with a tacked skirt and without a paper resume. How?! Because I believed in myself! The company called me back to do another interview. I didn't get the job, but who cares?! I'm a "happy coper" and I made gold out of a catastrophe!
Now is the time to believe in you! As Kanye said, "I'm turnt. All the way. I believe in me. Just believe in you. Let me do me. You like it? Cool. You don't? Fast forward." We all need a little inner Kanye and either way, fast forward.
You Can't Tell The World Yet:
For years, I've aspired to do many things that I don't share with a lot of people. It is not because I don't want people to know what I'm doing so much as it's because not everyone can handle it. I'd love to be cheered along the way but I've learned that sometimes it's not necessary for a loud applause just yet because during the loud applause are a host of voices and energies that may have a different aspiration for your dreams. All of the greats have stated this to be true and some of my favorites I've chosen to share with you below: Steve Harvey, Oprah, Mallory Heights Hagan -Miss America 2013, Kanye and so many more. I say all this to say, work in silence and then, share with the world. Believe in you before you give the world a chance to enhance those fears and doubts you already have.
The Confirmation of this below:
Here is something that I struggle with myself! In 2016, I will for sure try to rectify this! So here goes:
We convince ourselves that life will be better after we get married, have a baby, then another.
Then we are frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and we'll be more content when they are.
After that, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with.
We will certainly be happy when they are out of that stage.
We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our partner gets his or her act together when we get a nicer car, are able to go on a nice holiday, when we retire.
The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges.
It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
A quote comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said,
"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time...and remember that time waits for no one.
So, stop waiting until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until winter, until your song comes on, until you've had a drink.... there is no better time than right now to be happy.
Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
Work like you don't need money,
Love like you've never been hurt,
And dance like no one's watching
Ive never been one to cook. I've despised see any of the ingredients before they've become a beautiful and salivating desire to have. It wasn't until this year that Pinterest cooking ideas became my new favorite pastime. I literally pin every day and try to make at least one thing I've seen off of Pinterest within the month. It gives me a senses of accomplishment that I came be good at something I'm not altogether comfortable with all while pleasing those who partake in indulging. It simply gives me joy. So the following are pictures and a recipe from the stuffed caramel apples that I made. I hope you have just as fun making them as I did!
Life update: I am so in love and so happy I can't contain it! Most recently, I've been engulfed in wedding planning. My daily activities consist of reading all the latest blogs, stalking Pinterest wedding ideas and reading bridal magazines! Just as sweet as my fiancés proposal was for my hand in marriage, I wanted our proposal to our wedding party to be the almost as good! We are all about to have the time of our lives! Get ready guys and girls! As a result, I came up with the idea for "Sweet Boxes" to ask our special friends and family who will stand by our sides on our special day. Each of the boxes is personalized for that bridesmaid or groomsman.
As promised from my Instagram, here is a breakdown of the Sweet Boxes:
Girls: Wine bottles, Candy-Branded Chapstick, Candy of Course, A Ring pop, A personalized notecard, A picture of me and them on my favorite occasion and of course the proposal
Guys: Jack Daniels Bottle, Candy-Branded Chapstick, Candy of Course, A personalized notecard and of course the proposal
The things I write about are the love of my life and the life of my love!