Let People Change

It's a new year and while it may be the same old you, a part of you is either embracing or anticipating changes to come. Many of your friends and family may not be prepared for this moment. If you feel the same way, this blog is for you. We are taught our whole lives that we will be our best selves when we accept that the only thing constant is change. So, why don't we let other people - our even ourselves - change? We are all guilty of wondering why other people have decided to do this or that. You're human and these notions are okay. Just be sure that you fully process these thoughts and understand that everyone has an equal chance at change and deserves to do so in peace. No negativity. The change that others make may make you uncomfortable, but I promise it will always teach you something worthwhile. You may even find yourself a variable of the change and enter into a transition of your own. Here's a tip for how to deal: "Let People Change." As Jhene Aiko says in one of her songs "Change is inevitable. Why hold on to what you have to let go of?"

I can give you countless examples of the many changes that you may encounter from friends to a new job to a new car and so on. Some changes are out of your control and that's when you should allow them to just happen. However, when people change, we tend to not be so understanding. In 2016, don't allow frustration to fester.  Here's a tip on how to deal: Let people change. Let people live. Let people learn.

Lastly, you are always welcome to change too - and you will. One of the number one issues I see in the workplace and in real life is people who won't allow other people to change. When it comes to finding a new job, if you have 10 years of experience doing the SAME thing then you are rarely considered as capable of going into a new field. In life, if you want to start something new, like going vegan or moving to a new city, it's often perceived as a major lapse in judgement (or sanity!) by others. Try not to conform yourself or others. Here's my last tip on how to deal: Be you and let others be themselves too.

I'll leave you with another one of my favorite quotes: “If you always do what interests you, at least one person is pleased.” 
― Katharine Hepburn

Be the change you wish to see!  Let people change!